Branded in the hood

We have been BRANDED in our hood. Why? Well here it goes...Thing 2 likes to repeat what he hears. Fun huh? Actually there is more to it than that. Thing 2 is a hard headed, alpha male. Therefore has a hard time learning to tolerate other Alphas. We have a set of brothers in our hood that are similar in age as our boys. The oldest is an alpha, just like y youngest. They are constantly at each others throats. Well were, but not now, thanks to their parents. We found out through the children. They are no longer allowed to play with our boys. Thing 2 told their alpha that I think he is Full of SH--! In all fairness to him, I did say it! And I said it to the child a few months back. As soon as I said it, I felt terrible. Main reason is normally don't attack kidos! LOL! I would not want someone talking to my son in that way. What do I do? I immediately go and knock on the parents door and confess. I would not be able to live with myself if I didn't. It was the RIGHT thing to do! Anyhoo, Their alpha was taunting my boys by holding a nerf bullet hostage. Why? He wanted the upper hand, which is what alphas do. My alpha wasn't having any of it and proceeded to give him a Battle blow! He repeated what I had said. Fun, Fun! So now we are the BAD kids, that cuss, and bully others. In hearing this news, I went over to chat with Mama, whom in the past I would have consider a friend. She didn't want to talk to me. I called and left her a message. I still to this day have not talked to her. But that is another story...! My husband, took the bull by the horn and went over to chat with the Dad. Of course, they took the position that our children are a menace. They would rather not let their kids associate with ours. Even though they have a child who is identical in ever way to mine. Not accepting that He is part of the problem. Which is fine, They are the parents. We can not change their mind in any way. But we DO NOT agree either. Why do we not agree? Not because we think they are wrong about my alpha. We are so aware that he is hard headed, and at times thinks rules don't apply to him. Wonderful trait he inherited from, DADDY. Separating the boys and demanding no contact is not going to help either one of them. these two boys need to learn tolerate one another. It is our duty as parents to provide situations like this so that they develop the skills for the future. Just declaring no more further contact is going to do More harm than good. What happens when they are faced with the same situation? What happens when they are older and let loose into the world. We all know that we are confronted with people who we struggle with. If you do not provide the right guidance and Rip them out of situation they will never learn. Both my husband and Ifeel the same way on this subject. The first response any one has to their children is to protect them. But sometimes we can't! we need to let them experience life. We can't shelter them from everything. We need to let them grow and learn from their mistakes.